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Struggling Morris County Marriage: Work it out or Divorce?

Struggling Marriage Work it out or DivorceAs anyone who is or has been married knows, marriage comes with it many joys and many heartbreaks. All marriages have their good and bad times. It is difficult to see if a marriage is over and should be ended or if the marriage is just in a difficult patch that can be worked out with understanding and support. However, there are some very clear and accepted situations where ending a marriage is the correct path to take. For instance in cases of abuse or abandonment.

If you choose to go down the path of divorce you don’t have to walk it alone. Townsend, Tomaio & Newmark, L.L.C., with offices in Morristown and Hackensack, our attorneys have the compassion and knowledge required to effectively address any and all divorce-related issues. If your case involves high net worth or high profile divorce, the division of business assets, or complex property distribution, our family law professionals will fiercely fight for you in order to deliver quality council built on education ,not of direction of clients. Contact us and meet with our family law attorneys today at 973-840-8970.

Clear Signs a Divorce is the best option for your Morristown NJ Marriage

Any type of abuse or domestic violence is the clearest sign that your marriage should end. Abuse can take many forms but the most common are physical, sexual as well as mental and emotional.

  • Physical abuse is any intentional act causing injury or trauma to another person by way of bodily contact. Either you or your children can be victims of physical abuse. Often the abuser will make the victim feel as if it is his or her fault for making the abuser angry. It is critical to note that this type of abuse often escalates and can have grave and even deadly consequences.
  • Sexual abuse is sexual behavior or a sexual act forced upon a woman or man without their consent or a sexual act with a child under any circumstances. For a long time, it was believed that sexual abuse could not take place between spouses however now we know differently.
  • Mental and emotional abuse is violence that affects the mind, often leaving the abused feeling worthless and lacking empowerment. Types of mental or emotional abuse include verbal and psychological abuse yelling, constant put-downs or insults.

Another clear sign that a marriage should end is physical or emotional abandonment.

  • Physical abandonment is when a spouse simply leaves the marriage.  It may not be to a new residence but can be within the same house. It is often marked by a withdrawal of companionship.
  • Emotional abandonment is when a spouse simple stops trying to meet their partner’s emotional needs such as being listened to and understood, being nurtured, being appreciated, being valued, receiving affection and love.

Paths to Repairing Your Marriage in Whippany NJ

Having a third impartial party help you and your spouse can be the path to working out difficult and emotional issues. Many times it is difficult to see what is wrong with a marriage while you are involved in it and denial is always a problem. However, there are places you can turn to for help.

1) Clergy: If you and your spouse are active in your religious community, this is a logical place to look for guidance and help. It is likely that your clergy person knows you and has some insight into your family. It is common for religious leaders are trained in marital therapy and usually the service is without cost.

2) Marriage Counselors: Many mental health professionals often offer marriage counseling services.  Such professionals are trained and have experience in helping people through those rough marital problems.

3) Friends and family: If there is a trusted friend or family member that both of you trust they may be able to give you both some insight into what they see in your marriage.  Although such persons may not have formal training they may know you and your spouse very well and be able to offer insight and advice.

Before going down the road of divorce it is important to explore all options.

If you Choose Divorce, Finding the Right Morristown Divorce Attorney

If you decide that divorce is the best option for you, it is highly recommended that you retain experienced counsel. Our lawyers at Townsend, Tomaio & Newmark understand how difficult this decision can be.  If you are considering a divorce, or in the process of divorcing, contact our Morris County offices today for a free consultation 973-840-8970.