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What Actions Should I Avoid During Divorce Proceedings in New Jersey?

Going through a divorce is often a long, complex, and emotionally exhausting process. This is because there are several different aspects that need to be addressed. One of these parts of a divorce that spouses may not typically consider is their behavior and the actions they take during the proceedings. While it may not be an “official” part of the divorce process, proper behavior throughout a divorce is one of the most important things a spouse can remember to do. This is because any inappropriate behavior and actions can hurt the outcome of the divorce. To be aware of the do’s and don’ts of a divorce, Townsend, Tomaio, & Newmark, LLC created a list. Continue reading below to learn more and contact our firm for guidance during this time. 

What Should I Do?

The goal of a divorce for any spouse is for the proceedings to go as smoothly as possible. In order to help this process along the way, spouses can benefit from engaging in the following actions:

  • Change passwords to all email accounts and social media sites
  • Disclose all assets and liabilities when filling out your inventory
  • Be aware of the household budget and expenses
  • Collect your last two tax returns, real estate deeds, and mortgage documents
  • Examine your credit history and get a credit report
  • Know the total balance on any joint checking and savings bank accounts
  • Know the balance on your retirement plans, 401(k), pension plan, etc.
  • Get a copy of your spouse’s last two paycheck stubs
  • Seek out a CPA or accountant to help review the tax implications of your divorce
  • Seek help for any alcohol or illegal substance abuse
  • Keep a journal to document the exchange and pick up of any children you have
  • Keep any copies of money paid to your spouse
  • Be sure to pay your child support on time
  • Maintain good co-parenting practices with your spouse
  • Comply with any court-ordered injunctions and restrictions

What Should I Not Do?

On the other hand, there are also just as many actions that should be avoided during this time. While some may seem harmless, they have the potential to significantly alter the proceedings. This can include: 

  • Keep things from your attorney
  • Post anything on social media that can be used against you
  • Post information regarding your divorce on social media
  • Withhold visitation from your spouse for their failure to make child support payments
  • Move out of state with your children
  • Start another romantic relationship during the proceedings
  • Bring a new significant other around your children or the court hearings
  • Get pregnant or get anyone pregnant
  • Remove children from their current school
  • Buy real estate or any extravagant items while the divorce is pending
  • Sell property without the court’s permission
  • Send mean or negative emails, texts, messages, etc. to your spouse
  • Increase your debt while the divorce is pending
  • Give large contributions to anyone during the proceedings
  • Discuss the case with your children or use them as intermediaries
  • Criticize your spouse in front of your children

Contact our Firm

If you need an experienced legal team to guide you through your divorce, contact Townsend, Tomaio & Newmark L.L.C today.