As much as you, as a parent, want to provide a stable, healthy, and happy home for your children, many times an unhappy marriage can have the exact opposite affect. When one parent, or both, believe that it is for the best that the marriage end, it is important that those same parents are aware of some of the dangers a contentious divorce can have on the livelihood of their children, as well as benefits that divorce mediation can have in terms of a family’s overall well-being.
While divorce mediation will not work for every family, when it can, here are some of the reasons why you may want to choose mediation over traditional divorce litigation when it comes to protecting the best interests of your children, as well as the stability of the family unit as a whole.
Why a Contentious Divorce Can Negatively Impact Your Children, Chatham Divorce Attorneys
The more contentious a divorce, the more that its affects will be felt by the entire family. Not only will parents be embattled legally, it will be all but impossible to hide the anger and resentment a contentious divorce can cause parents to feel towards one another from their children.
Children of even extremely young ages are highly perceptive, and the best case scenario is that they will feel sad knowing their parents are in such disagreement, worst case scenario one parent or the other will try to influence a child’s feelings towards their other parent in an effort to secure a more favorable child custody agreement or simply just for spite.
In addition, contentious divorces are expensive. A family’s savings can disappear quickly between court motions and unnecessary legal fees, and the financial security your children enjoy can easily be put in jeopardy.
The bottom line is that a contentious divorce is never good for the children of the divorcing parents, and can have serious, long-term impacts on their happiness, their relationship with their parents, and their economic security.
Why Divorce Mediation Can Be a Positive Experience for Your Children, Mendham Mediation Lawyers
Beyond avoiding the many negative consequences discussed above, divorce mediation can actually even be a positive experience for your children.
In order for divorce mediation to work, the divorcing parents must honestly and openly communicate their feelings, thoughts, and needs moving forward with one another. This not only creates a healthy and positive experience for all involved, it can also provide an excellent example to your children of how people in conflict can resolve said conflicts through communication and compromise.
Additionally, considering that most divorce mediations only involve a single attorney, and are based upon compromise rather than fighting over every last advantage, the mediation process is often significantly less expensive than divorce litigation, leaving your family (and thus your children) in a much more secure financial position moving forward.
Finally, it may also be the case that your children are asked to speak with your divorce mediator, sometimes privately sometimes as a family, and these discussions can leave your children feeling much more informed, and secure in the knowledge that their own needs and concerns are being taken into account during the divorce process.
Contact Our Morris County Divorce Mediation Attorneys Today
So as much as no parent may wish to put their children through the difficult experience that a divorce can often be, when a divorce does become necessary it is important that those same parents know that there are options at their disposal which can protect their own needs and interests, their children’s needs and interests, and their family’s needs and interests as a whole.
At The Law Office of Townsend, Tomaio & Newmark, our divorce mediation attorneys have extensive experience working with families to resolve their divorce through mediation in a private, less expensive, less time consuming, and perhaps most importantly of all, much more positive manner in towns across New Jersey and Morris County, including Chatham, Mendham, Morristown, Chester, Tewksbury, Harding, Mt. Olive, Morris Township, and more.
To speak with our legal team today in a free and confidential consultation regarding your divorce, your options for pursuing your divorce through the mediation process, or any other specific needs or concerns you may have when it comes to the various divorce agreements like child custody, child support, alimony, or the division of assets, please contact us online, or through our Morristown, NJ office at (973) 828-0829.