New Resolve For A New Year

If you are entering the New Year in the midst of, or planning, a possible divorce from your spouse, bear in mind that the process is often set by the tone of its participants. Borrow a page from the New Year’s tradition of making resolutions. Put together a list for yourself of your goals and what is most important to you during this divorce and then categorize them for yourself. Is it important to minimize the impact on the children? Is it important to get done quickly with minimal stress? Are there things that you simply cannot let go of and must have in order to be divorced.

Being clear on what your goals are and what your mindset is, and then conveying it to your attorney, will help you both to have a clear objective and to work on a plan to get you there together.  Bear in mind also that your spouse does not have to be your enemy, even if you no longer wish to be married. The more you can work out amicably, the less stress it creates for you as an individual and for your family as a whole.

Keeping your focus and working with your attorney to get through this process as quickly and painlessly as possible will help you to achieve a better outlook in your near future. And when your divorce becomes final, you can look back at your goals and be satisfied that you were able to come out of a stressful time with your dignity and respect intact. Posted by Elizabeth A. Calandrillo, Esq.