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Life After Divorce Morris County Attorneys Advise Take Time To Adjust

Serving Divorce Clients across Chatham, Chester, Fort Lee, Hackensack, Mendham, Morristown, Paramus, Ridgewood and Morris County

Moving from old life to new life after divorce
Making the transition after divorce:
You will get there!

Congratulations! You’ve completed your divorce and have regained your single status, free from the boundaries of marriage. Take time to discover the best points of being single again at this point in your life. This means taking time for yourself, doing the things that you like to do and with people you enjoy. Most importantly, intentionally reclaim yourself and know who you are now. Townsend, Tomaio & Newmark has guided thousands of clients across the state of New Jersey in their post divorce transitions.  We’re glad to share a few recommendations which come from a strong foundation of practical experience.

Chester Family Lawyer reflects on transition on new life after divorce

Start with reflection

Discovering yourself means reflecting about your life: where you’ve been, how and why you’ve arrived to this place in your life, how you honestly feel about that and where you’re going now. A big part of this is seriously thinking about your past relationship that lead to your marriage in the first place, and then, why your marriage ended. Be honest with yourself. It’s essential to decide what is most important to you in a future relationship, because let’s face it…you’re probably not planning to stay single forever!

Do you have some post divorce issues that have come up and that you’re concerned about? Don’t hesitate to contact Townsend, Tomaio & Newmark.  We are one of the largest and most well-equipped family law firms in the state of New Jersey. With over 75 years of combined experience in the area of divorce and family law, our skilled legal professionals are very up-to-date on every family law issue. For you this means that our tremendous accumulation of knowledge and experience is working for you. We will draw on this wealth of knowledge to your advantage as we address and resolve the issues around your divorce, ranging from child custody, to alimony, child support, and division of assets. Having assisted countless clients from all walks of life, we aim for the most positive outcomes for you and your family, now and into the future.

Contact Townsend, Tomaio & Newmark today either online or call our offices in Morris County at 973-840-8970 directly for a free, confidential consultation. One of our seasoned New Jersey divorce attorneys will be happy to discuss your case, answer your questions, and outline your available options.

Relationship & dating? Don’t rush into anything…

It can make sense to take things slowly, despite the temptation to rush into dating, dating sites or social activities aimed at finding a new partner. Consider giving yourself time to recuperate after the divorce, even if you’ve been separated for a while. The extra time you allow yourself to adjust to the finality of divorce, and all of the changes happening in your life, usually pays off in the end.

Think about counseling services

Consider seeing a counselor, even just for one or two visits. It can be eye-opening and very helpful to just talk through your feelings about things that are happening with a person who listens carefully and who is both neutral and wise. The feedback that you get will likely help you to clear your mind, get balanced perspectives or further strengthen your confidence. It’ll likely reinforce and confirm your “right” thinking. Just a few counseling sessions can speed up your recovery in terms of emotional healing. Ask your attorney at Townsend, Tomaio & Newmark to recommend local counseling services or a divorce support group.

Co-Parenting and your kids post-divorce

New freedom still comes with strings

Co-parenting in your new life after divorce
Co-parenting is an important part of new life after divorce

If you have children, bear in mind that while you are now “single”, you are not alone. Even though your relationship status is single, if you are co-parenting your other relationship is still in place: your parent-child relationship(s). It’s just adjusted to “single parent”. As a single parent, your decisions can never be only about you, regardless of whether you are the custodial parent or not. Your child(ren) will, and should be, core to your life decisions at least until they are adults, and more likely, forever.

Prioritizing the consideration of the impact of your post-divorce actions or decisions on your child(ren) does get less over time. As they become increasingly independent so will you. Nonetheless, you will continue to weigh many of your social life decisions and activities against how they might affect your child custody, visitation or post-divorce financial support arrangements. You will still be planning for their futures and taking into consideration their healthy emotional development and instilling values and a strong self-esteem. It’s just what good parents do.

The road to a new life post divorce
It’s a life-long road ahead, Enjoy the after divorce journey


As with most things in life, there are phases to go through. Time eventually heals or at least it puts things in perspective. Time can also present a need for modifications in your divorce agreement, as it relates to custody, parenting time, and even child support amounts based on change in circumstance. Your relationship with Townsend, Tomaio & Newmark does not end when your divorce is finalized. Whether you are one of our many returning clients, or you are new to the firm, our Divorce Team is uniquely positioned to offer counsel every step of the way, including post judgement and post divorce modification claims.

Be gentle with yourself, make the most of this new, post-divorce life; consider it an adventure. Above all, if you have children, make the most of every moment. Either way, actively enjoy every day of your life.

Contact Our Parsippany NJ Divorce Lawyers Today

Whether through mediation, litigation, or collaborative divorce, the talented New Jersey divorce attorneys at Townsend, Tomaio & Newmark, are fully prepared to champion your interests and effectively resolve your case. Call 973-840-8970 or contact us online, for a free consultation with one of our seasoned legal professionals today. With experience, compassion and an eye to your family’s future, your lawyer at Townsend, Tomaio & Newmark will guide you in your decisions as you redesign and make your new life.