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How to Achieve a Low-Conflict Divorce in New Jersey

Often, spouses get divorced because they have simply grown apart. Other times, there is a more specific reason for the divorce and tensions run high. Either way, you likely want to get through the process as quickly and easily as possible. Divorce can be stressful no matter what, but there are a few ways to make it easier. Read on to learn some tips and tricks that may help you have a low-conflict divorce.

What Can I Do to Ensure a Low-Conflict Divorce?

The truth is, every divorce is different, and there is nothing you can do to ensure it will go smoothly. But, there are some things you can do to make the process easier on yourself:

  • Practice acceptance. One thing to focus on when going into the process is accepting your situation. This can be difficult to do, but coming to terms with it will make the process easier. This is because it may alleviate some of the anger or denial you may feel.
  • Be a flexible thinker. One of the most important things you can do in order to have a low-conflict divorce is to be flexible and willing to compromise. Go into it knowing that you will likely have to find a happy medium.
  • Try to manage your emotions. There are many heightened emotions that come with divorce proceedings. It is normal to feel strong emotions and it is also normal to want to act on them, but this can impact your divorce proceedings. During this time, it is especially important to have healthy coping mechanisms to process these emotions.
  • Communicate effectively. Communication is critical in any divorce. This is especially true when spouses are not on good terms. Be sure to leave your feelings out of it and speak concisely in a neutral tone. Having an experienced mediator can make all the difference when it comes to lessening hostility and conflict.
  • It is understandable to feel misunderstood or disrespected during a divorce. You and your spouse may not be on the same page and that’s okay. It is important to know that your feelings are normal and valid.
  • Focus on your behavior only. You can’t change how your spouse will act. You can only control your behavior. Keeping this in mind can be extremely helpful.

If you are getting divorced, you will need the right attorney on your side. Contact our firm to speak with an experienced and dedicated divorce attorney today. We are here to walk you through the process each step of the way.


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